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Marriage & Divorce

Are you married? Lets see if these words can make it better. Divorced? Its not the end of the world. Reconciliation? Have you and your spouse got back together after you have been separated? Whichever, or even if none of these three apply to you, have a read. You may find out something new!
 

Two people marry, why? Because they love each other. The love that was there in the beginning should continue all the way through till death do you part. Love does not cost anything.

 I strongly believe that the one who created marriage and designed it, has the key to marriage to the end. Well he did design it! If the marriage seems to be getting frustrating then have a word with the Creator. If you buy a computer and it keeps coming up with faults, you speak to the one who can fix it don’t you? I know it might sound too simple to be true, so then, why not give it a try? I am not talking religion. This may seem unreal to some but there are people who have been married for many years and claim to have never raised their voice to their partner. Impossible? No!

 If you know what love is, then you can understand each other and life. Love is like charity e.g. you are giving to each other time, patience, listening, attention, support, comfort. 1 Corinthians 13 verse 4 and to the beginning of verse 8 explains it.
4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

8 Charity never faileth:

 The Creator gave those words to you and all of us to help us understand what love and charity are about.

Have you ever heard the saying “God is Love?” Try out this experiment. In the verses from 4 to 8, where it says the word CHARITY, say GOD instead of CHARITY.

It works doesn’t it? Put yourself in the place of CHARITY. It would read something like this.

“I am patient while I have suffered a long time. I am kind. I do not envy, I do not boast, I am not proud. I am not rude, I am not self-seeking, I am not easily angered. I do not delight in evil things but extremely happy when the truth is revealed. I stand through all situations. I believe all things that are true. I have hope for things to come to pass. I persevere through life’s challenges. I never fail.”

When you put the 3 together you get “GOD” “LOVE” “I.” “I” “LOVE” “GOD.” The three names are in complete agreement as if they were ONE person making a decision. The three should agree as ONE. I say should agree, because, “GOD” and “LOVE are ONE, but “I” need to understand “GOD” and “LOVE” so “I” can become ONE as the other two are in agreement. How do you understand “GOD” and “LOVE”? You do this by applying “GOD” and “LOVE” to your heart, your soul and your thinking.
1 John 4 verses 7 and 8 says:
“7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.

8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.”

By believing in love should mean you are believing in God, for God is love.

Now to deal with divorce. 1 Corinthians 7 verse 15 is here to help you.
“But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

My explanation. If the person does not believe in love/God and they want to leave, then let them do so. If they are happy to stay with you even though they don’t believe in love/God, then they can stay. Because you have love/God and show love/God, this could make them say “HEY, you glow with love. I have no option but to love you.” This could encourage them to show love/God from their heart and join you into creating a loving and comfortable relationship.

On the other hand, if you love someone and they don’t love you, and they are beating you or hating you or cheating on you and they want to leave, then it makes sense to let them go. Surely you want to live in peace. If that is their attitude, then they do not have love/God in their heart, which they should because you and your partner have become one.

Now it is clear to see. If for each other you have love/God in your hearts, then there is no way that you would divorce. If their love is not there and they leave, love yourself. You deserve to be loved by someone who loves you. You may find someone else who loves you. If you don’t get someone else remember, “GOD” “LOVE” “I.” “I” “LOVE” “GOD.” I will break it down clearly. I love God, God loves me, I am created in the image of God, love is in me, I love me.

Love yourself before you love someone else.

Reconciliation. Now you know what love is, you can apply it to your life and live in peace with your partner. If you are reading this and you are not with your spouse and you believe they want to be with you again, then if they haven’t read this, let them read it so that they will understand your intentions. Or, sit down in a place where you both will not be disturbed and tell them, with your own mouth, about how you feel and your intentions.
If they are already with someone else, I suggest that you may have to leave them alone. It could get messy. Unnecessarily messy.

I haven’t personally counted, but I heard that there are around 6.5 billion people who live on earth. Around half of the 6.5 billion (not million but billion) are the opposite sex (things are looking good already for you). A sizable portion of this amount are single (even better news for you).
If you and your partner are not in a relationship with anyone else and you believe that you have love in you now, then it may be an option to get back together. This means, going back to your partner and live in peace and in a settled environment. Both of you must agree to love each other. It may not just happen as soon as you decide “I now have love,” it is something you both have to work on everyday and over a long period of time for the rest of your lives.

I hope this has helped. Whatever your situation single, married, divorced or reconciled, I hope you enjoy life and live in peace. Remember, Love yourself, love your partner, love love/God, love is in you!