Now, I strongly believe that the one who created marriage and designed it, and said divorce is a no no, I believe he has the key to marriage to the end. Well he did design it? If the marriage seems to be getting frustrating then have a word with the Creator. If you buy a computer and it keeps coming up with faults, you speak to the one who can fix it don’t you? I know it might sound too simple to be true, so then, why not give it a try? I am still not talking religion. This may seem unreal to some but, there are people who have been married for many years and they claim to have never raised their voice to their partner. Impossible? No!
Divorce. I will take you to what the Creator said how he feels about it. Reading from the New International Version (NIV) of the Bible, Malachi 2 verse 16.
16) “I hate divorce.” I think there needs to be no explanation here.
Now, if you know what love is, then you can understand each other and life. 1 Corinthians 13 verse 4 and to the beginning of verse 8 explains it.


4) LOVE is patient, LOVE is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5) It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6) LOVE does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7) It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8) LOVE never fails.


”Isn’t that nice! The Creator gave those words to you and all of us to help us understand what love is about.

Now, check this out. Have you ever heard the saying “God is Love?” Try out this experiment. In the verses from 4 to 8, where it says the word LOVE, say GOD instead of LOVE.


GOD is patient, GOD is kind. HE does not envy, HE does not boast, HE is not proud. HE is not rude, HE is not self-seeking, HE is not easily angered, HE keeps no record of wrongs. GOD does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. HE always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. GOD never fails.


It works doesn’t it? The saying is true. Now lets go a little bit deeper. At the beginning of creation when God made man, what was said? Genesis 1 verse 27 says:
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”
Here is my explanation. You were created in the image of God. Ephesians 5 verse 1 says “Be imitators of God.” Lets give that a try shall we. Right, lets go back to verses 4 to 8 and try another experiment. Where it says LOVE, don’t say LOVE but replace it with “I.” “I” represents you, the person reading or hearing this.

I am patient, I am kind. I do not envy, I do not boast, I am not proud. I am not rude, I am not self-seeking, I am not easily angered, I keep no record of wrongs. I do not delight in evil but rejoice with the truth. I always protect, always trust, always hope, always persevere. I never fail.
“GOD” “LOVE” “I.” “I” “LOVE” “GOD.” The three statements are in complete agreement as if they were ONE person making a decision. The three should agree as ONE. I say should agree, because, “GOD” and “LOVE are ONE, but “I” need to understand “GOD” and “LOVE” so “I” can become ONE as the other two are in agreement. How do you understand “GOD” and “LOVE”? You do this by applying “GOD” and “LOVE” to you, your soul and your thinking.
See 1 John 4 verses 7 and 8. This is what it says:
“7) Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8) Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

Have I exhausted your mind? I have exhausted my own mind. I have to get a glass of water.
By believing in love should mean you are believing in God, for God is love. Now let us deal with divorce. 1 Corinthians 7 verse 15 is here to help you.
15) “But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.”


My explanation. If the person does not believe in love/God and they want to leave, then let them do so. If they are happy to stay with you even though they don’t believe in love/God, then they can stay. Because you have love/God and show love/God, this could make them say “HEY, you glow with love. I have no option but to love you.” This could encourage them to show love/God from their heart and join you into creating a loving, beautiful and comfortable relationship.


On the other hand, if you love someone and they don’t love you, and they are beating you or hating you or cheating on you and they want to leave, then it makes sense to let them go. Surely you want to live in peace. If that is their attitude, then they do not have love/God in their heart, which they should because you and your partner have become one.

Now it is clear to see. If, for each other, you have love/God in your hearts, then there is no way under heaven that you would divorce! If the love is not there and they leave, love yourself. You deserve to be loved by someone who loves you. You may find someone else who loves you. If you don’t get someone else remember, “GOD” “LOVE” “I.” “I” “LOVE” “GOD.” Let me break it down for you to understand clearly. I love God, God loves me, I am created in the image of God, love is in me, I love me.
I need another glass of water.


Now we have come to the final subject. Reconciliation. Having read what has been already written, do I need to say more? Now you know what love is, you can apply it to your life and live in peace with your partner. If you are reading this and you are not with your spouse and you believe they want to be with you again, then if they haven’t read this, let them read it so that they will understand your intentions. Or, sit down in a place where you both will not be disturbed and tell them, with your own mouth, about how you feel and your intentions.
If they are already with someone else, I suggest that you may have to leave them alone. It could get messy. unnecessarily messy. I haven’t personally counted, but I heard that there are around 5.5 billion people who live on earth. Around half of the 5.5 billion (not million but billion) are the opposite sex. Wow. Things are looking good already for you. A sizable portion of this amount are single. My goodness!
If you and your partner are not in a relationship with anyone else and you believe that you have love in you now, then why not be reconciled? This means, going back to your partner and live in peace and in a settled environment. Both of you must agree to love each other. It may not just happen as soon as you decide “I now have love,” it is something you both have to work on everyday and over a long period of time for the rest of your lives.


Well that’s all. I hope this has helped. Whatever your situation single, married, divorced or reconciled, I hope you enjoy life and live in peace. Remember, Love yourself, love your partner, love love/God, love is in you!

Two people marry, why? Because they love each other. The love that was there in the beginning should continue all the way through till death do you part. Love does not cost anything unless you are paying a prostitute. I say this and count it as imitating love, because, it is copying what is part of a fantastic activity that a marriage consists of. The love making. Its not making friends, its making love. Its not having a chat, its making love. It is not playing table tennis, that’s right, you guessed it, its making love.

Some say ‘having sex,’ but what is having sex? That’s right, it is making love whether married or imitating love (outside marriage).